My girlfriend is moody, is she cheating on me?

Dear BMW,

I hope this message gets you in good health. I am a 26-year-old man based in Lilongwe. I have a girlfriend and we have dated for seven months. Our relationship started out perfectly. We could go out Friday nights and have fun. Lots of fun filled with love. We loved each other and I guess we still do.

But to my surprise as months passed by, my girl started changing. She stopped being lovey dovey.  As time passed by, she became extremely moody and her acts were quite selfish sometimes. I am yet to confirm whether she is seeing another man or not…but I could sense that something was amiss.

I tried talking to her several times, to no avail. She usually gives an apology that it’s her hormones messing up with her but later the same thing happens.

 I was exhausted to the point I asked for a breakup. But she resisted, claiming she would take her own life if I dumped her, of which I know she wasn’t bluffing, she would eventually do it.

Big Man Wamkulu, I write to you to seek counselling because this is eating me up, what should I do?

Mr Twenty One, via WhatsApp, Area 49

 Dear Mr 21,

Sorry to disappoint you, but your girlfriend is cheating on you and not just you but on her other seven boyfriends too. Her behaviour is not strange. It’s the behaviour often displayed by women who are uncomfortable and those who can’t love one man.

She is always moody, you said. Oh boy, she is not. Her mood swings are a sign of guilt and sometimes disappointment that the man she had just slept with had not paid. The stress of waiting for a Trans ID can get on the nerves and makes women moody, very moody. Try if you want to change her mood by sending her money while she is with you, see how her face will light up like a Casino.

Look at me my friend, women who are cheating and have seven other men, will always say that they will kill themselves if you leave them. Those are lies. The moment you leave, she will be calling her other boyfriend for a night out and a sex marathon.

Lastly, you say you are exhausted and do not know what to do. Really? Are you a man enough? Lend me your ears and listen to me carefully. Go out tonight and find another woman. Romance her as if there is no tomorrow and spend money on her money. Let us see who will be exhausted chasing after you.

My advice is don’t waste your time and hers with this relationship which is as good as dead.

Run and never look back zake izo. Mukwera nazo BP za ziiii

Big Man Wamkulu.